Have you ever been overwhelmed by the goals you've set for your life?
I knew from a fairly early age that I was meant to be an Architect. I put in the work, went to a good college, got a job, took the AREs, and poof! I was an Architect. Now, that's a cute way to summarize 12 years of my life. I also got married, raised a dog, and experienced several other personal events (both good and bad) that made me who I am today.
It's good to have long term goals. They keep you motivated and focused. They give you direction. But, let's face it - they can also make us anxious and a little bit crazy when we don't feel like we're meeting them. We procrastinate, get distracted, and realize we've wasted opportunities.
Over time, our lives change. It's not a bad thing, just something most of us never really consider. The passion you have for something may evolve over time. You may find that the time in your life now allows you to do certain things, while other moments will provide you with different types of experiences.
So how do we keep moving forward if we can't control these moments?
Our lives are in continuous flow, but they're made up of phases that you pass between as the events around you shape that flow. I say simply be aware of the chapter of your life that you're in right now. You are not the same person at 20 that you are 30, 40, and so on. Even the difference between who you are within 5 years may be substantial.
You may be single today and have a spouse and children a few years from now. You may have responsibilities at work that you didn't 6 months ago. There are all kinds of things that don't necessarily 'get in the way' of your goals, but rework how you live your life.
This doesn't need to be stressful. It can be calming to realize who you are right now and accept it. If you think of your life in chapters rather than as a straight-forward path, it becomes easier to work in-between and within the moments of your life so you can achieve what you always hoped to.
THIS WEEK'S EVOLUTION:
Think about the major factors that affect your life right now - age, family, professional experience, education, etc. Now write down your one, long-term goal. Does it still work with the life you have right now? Maybe it doesn't and that's okay. Adjust what you need to and either come back to it later or create a new goal for yourself.